Thursday, 27 August 2015

SHOULD PARENTS MAKE CAREER CHOICES FOR THEIR CHILDREN?




In Nigeria it is a common practice for parents to choose careers for their children. This arrangement often have a long term implication for both parties. Currently, I have a student that I mentor one-on-one. She is in senior school 1 (SS 1) in a private school. Right from the onset she has made her career choice known. She wanted to become a lawyer, since she hates the sciences. But her decision did not go down well with her father. The father wanted her to study medicine. As for the mother, she sits on the fence. Right now I wait to see whose decision gains supremacy.

THE IMPLICATION
Choosing a career should never be a battle-field matter. Obviously, when parents impose careers on their children, poor performance is often the result. The heart and mind of the child is far removed from the career. Hence, the child puts in little effort. In some cases, this may not be intentional as the student grapples with seemingly difficult subjects. In the end, they fail their courses.

PARENTS TAKE NOTE
IT is not fair, or wise to impose career on your child. If you really want your child in a particular field, then start early to groom him  along this line while he is still young. This way you prepare his  mind to accept it naturally. Also, observe your child very well because at this level they begin to exhibit certain traits that you can horn to your advantage.
QUESTION FOR READERS
1.       Should parents choose careers for their children?
2.       How did you choose your own career?

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